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To Anil

To Marta July 21, 2001

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Friday, June 8, 2001

Dearest Marta,

You know that I love you and will always love you. I love you so much. If I have failed in love with you it is not because of lack of desire. And, if I have not done what you wanted, it is usually that I did not know how.

I am so sorry that I said things that hurt you. I did not say those things to hurt; whatever I said was thought through although the pressure of the situation led to them being not said in the best way; I hesitated; I said them to see what the problems might be – and then work on them. If we have hurt each other it is because we loved and wanted love. I will always love you, find you beautiful and sexy but way more than just that.

We will be friends. We will be excellent friends – not just friends. We will care for each other. I want you to be 92 and I want to know you then. There is a special place for you in my heart. Always.

Joan and Gil have both offered me a place when I said we had broken up but they may need to rent soon. And once the students start to come back finding a place will be very hard. It will also be more comfortable to move before you need me to move.

I love and will miss Jessie and Sara. [I will tell them that myself.]  They are both lovely. As for you, in losing you part of me will die and I hope that that part or something better will grow in its place. I have learned about a lot - especially coping – from you.

I am glad you have new friends in your life. I miss you. I hope you have love, friendship and caring. I hope you have love, a feeling of home. Always be free to call or come to me.

I have no idea what the chances are to be more than excellent friends. I do not want anything more than friends unless it is good for you – for both of us. I do not think that staying here will give us a chance to be in love again. And I do not want to destroy that chance. Just hanging around will likely destroy the chance. It would take listening – not being judgmental. I would need to be on real time in the relationship – I will explain what that means face to face. If you accept love, sex, passion the way I like it – the way that I have learned, that I know… then, I believe, it would naturally transform to what you want and like. I think we could both use therapy. Openness, truth would be essential. I am truly thankful you invited me to live here… I do think this house is a mistake for us – we would need something with our space.  Your ideas would be totally needed. I would like to hear them anytime – now or later. You are my most beautiful girl.

Love,

Anil