1. Broken trust

I don’t trust sex and don’t care if I don’t have it

I will go wherever you will go

2. Destructive behavior [and avoidance] masked by

Rationalizing [“what I really meant”]… but avoiding [“I don’t want to talk about it”, leaving] real discussion

Intense energy devoted to being innocent and showing that I’m bad e.g. insisting I meant something I did not

3. Medical problems

4. Implicit victim complex coupled with intimidation [rationalized by “if you’re going to get so threatened by my normal response…”; but the point is that real issues get avoided]

5. Moving out: will provide space to heal and go on; whether separate or together