Stay/move

some issues June 12 01


My feelings are the measure of whether the relationship is good for me

“Feelings” include the quality and meaning of my life – and my work, my hopes…

I want to feel good. I do not want to feel bad.

It does not matter who’s right who’s wrong who’s whatever…

I have tried, have felt passion… I try, I feel

I tried both because I wanted to and because you wanted.

Every relation is subject to loss of spontaneity. The way back is through accepting awkwardness.

The “caring” feels good; also contributes to the relationship aura that is a must…

Moving to this house is something I wanted but also a risk for both; if I had not moved I would have avoided loveliness and conflict

I have looked for local jobs – and like everything else this is sacrifice and gain

We both try, feel … feel we met rejection – we are paddling the same canoe … some is misunderstanding, some us… what can be made good?

My needs

I want my life to be good everyday [I am not saying that all pain must be avoided]

I want to follow my path into the wilderness

Common needs

Need to be recognized vs. ability to give: 2 [or other number] days a week rather than 2/7 of a day everyday – also solves other problems.

Excitement is possible… live separately[?]